In a recent interview with the New York Times, the founder of MercyMe spoke about his own life as a father and how he wanted to change the way he interacted with his son.
I was the kind of father who’d make sure that he was taking care of his son in whatever ways I could.
He’d say, “You’re doing good, Dad.
I’m just saying thanks.”
When he learned he was having a child, he realized that he could teach him a lot.
He realized, “I’m not going to have to be the parent that’s going to be there for him, the parent who’s going, “Why can’t you just be the dad that’s not here?”
It was a revelation for me.
When I had the chance to be a father for a few years, I realized that I couldn’t be the person that was going to look at my son and say, “What the hell is going on?”
He was going, What are you doing?
What’s going on? I’m like, Why?
Why are you not going out there to get me out?
So he’s going out with a smile and he’s trying to be helpful, but he’s just a big kid.
The same thing happened for me as a parent, which is that I was like, “How can I help him?
How can I do what I’m supposed to do?
I don’t want to just be in there with him when he’s feeling down.
I want to be with him and make sure he’s getting enough sleep.”
The next step was to teach him that he doesn’t have to look for help or make a big deal out of it.
So the only way that he’s ever going to really have to think about what he’s supposed to be doing is if he’s being raised by his parents,” MercyMe said. “
He’s a kid, he’s an innocent kid, and he needs to be able to look out for himself.
So the only way that he’s ever going to really have to think about what he’s supposed to be doing is if he’s being raised by his parents,” MercyMe said.
So I started looking at his parenting skills.
I said, “Listen, when you’re a kid and you’re struggling with your parents, you’re not going be in a place where you’re like, ‘I’m a bad parent.
You’re going to get through this.
You’re going have to figure out how to be more helpful, and I’m going to teach you that you’re supposed to have a voice in your life.”
He learned that he didn’t need help.
After that, I said to myself, If I’m a father, I’m the one who’s supposed at this point to say, ‘You know what?
I can do this for you.’
I’m the father.
I can’t just be like, `You’re not the best mom I know.’
And then he would get a little more help from me.
I realized that, I could make him look like a better dad, and then he could actually do it.
And that was kind of the catalyst that led me to start MercyMe.
It’s an idea that’s been around for a long time.
There are a lot of dads out there who aren’t going to want to go out there and talk about how their kids are being raised.
We are all going to see the same things, so we’re going be there to support each other and be supportive of each other.
I want to make sure, if I’m out there, I’ll be there.
I want him to have that father figure that I always wanted.
That’s what I want for him.
Now he’s the one that I’m saying, ‘You know, I am a good dad.’
“It’s about not saying, ‘Oh, well, that’s what he should be like.
That’s what we need to do,'” MercyMe continued.
“I don’t know if I could have said that to him, but I knew that if I said that, he would listen to me.
He would listen.”
MercyMe is now a company that offers an online tool that will teach parents how to communicate with their kids.
According to the company’s website, MercerMe is the only one of its kind, and it’s free.
For more information, check out The Huffington Post’s website here.